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One yeah all right, so we're mormon like lds and all there's a little chat. Guys is the wrong thing that that that overall society kind of pressures you to get married regardless. So, even even if you weren't, pressured by a party that you can deadly point at you overall get pressured one more another in our church to get married, especially at our church school that we went to. Everyone gets married really fast.

We got married after like five months because we wanted to - and you know we loved each other, but i feel like it definitely like. There are like some more like societal pressures in that aspect strongly disagree, but i mostly disagree because i don't feel like we wouldn't. I told you guys yeah, i feel like we were kind of not necessarily pressured to get married but more pressured to date for marriage. But then, once we met each other and told our families they're like hey, maybe you should slow down so we're more.

So pressured not to get married but yeah, i would say zero percent pressure like when i first saw this woman i was like. Oh, i got ta get to know you girl and i honestly we have both been through broken homes before we both come from divorced families and uh. A big passion we have is having strong, a strong marriage, and so i was just i've, never been more confident about anything in my life than amber jay. There was real pressure, it was all pressure on me.

I got ta hope, she's feeling the same way because yeah i'm and we actually dated for less than a year as well. But when you know you know right, i have some hot takes submitted by our audience and so i'll read off the prompt and you'll agree with the prompts women do more work in marriages wrong. I feel like no one should be doing more work than the other person in a marriage personally um i feel like in order for a marriage to work, you have to come at it equally. That might be just an idealistic view, but i don't know yeah.

I feel like like as a general statement most of the women i know and including the women who have raised. How is that, true, though they had a job, they also took care of the kids like most of the time. Most of the household chores also fell on, like you know, on the woman, and i do just see that more often than not that women take on two jobs. Literally okay, i have concerns.

Well, i don't get it. Why not? Why not just split the workload and the job, uh, half and half then if it's gon na be if you're gon na be equal, they want things to be. Well, then just talk about it and say: yeah yo dude, i'm not gon na. Do the whole launch on my own you're gon na have enough you, if you otherwise clean your own clothes and clean my own clothes ass divorce.

What i have considered divorce uh, oh, oh, a rhino and a hedgehog, okay, dude and so charlie's very much. The rhino he's like let's tackle this now we need to talk now and for me, i'm a hedgehog. I need to withdraw and so i think in those moments i don't know, i think, i'm more here. It's just like.

Well, you know when you're in the heat of the moment, you know what i mean yeah. No. I definitely know that our communication styles are totally different. We didn't communicate well at first.

I know kenzie comes from a divorce family and then saw their family just fight and yell a lot. I came from a family where my parents had a disagreement. They fought with passive aggressive comments and closed doors, so yeah i feel like a lot of convo. Just wasn't easy for me at all, and so divorce sounds a heck of a lot easier than pushing through it, which luckily we did we're doing great we're happy now.

But there definitely was a time where yeah it seems easier to just drop everything and move on. Instead of trying to grow, i am happy with how often we have sex. Oh, oh, oh though guys guy's this guy. This is weird because they're guys they're all gon na lie because their partners are right.

There don't they're, never talking, there's a rhino, then there's a rabbit. I feel like i'm the rabbit in this marriage and my expectations and like my like sex drive, is my libido's very high, but it's always been that high. So we've i came in honest, it was on the table, i feel like sometimes you know, work and life get in the way of that responsibilities, but i think yeah we're trying to find a middle. You know we're both here.

It'd be. You know i think, if we had split, then there would be like evidence that we're not talking about it uh, but i think this like this is not a surprise to me. I don't think it's a surprise to you that we're like we're both here, because it's it's jesus, i think yeah. I think it's like something we're working through and it's just like when you get married, you get into like this routine, you get into like just working and going you know, and then, at the end of the day, you're just like spent we're both like really too Ambitious people - and i think, like sometimes it's - the documentary - stop tagging with this.

This smirk emotion, what's like is that on both ends of the thing with this yeah, i want children, three two one go. If we can, i know stop, but because we're i'm gon na watch the video. What do you think me with this? Stop telling me, with the smirking same stuff, i'm trying to watch the video a lot of costs that go behind making a baby, so we bought a house last year and that was huge for us. Now, kids are on the table and that's another.

You know. Forty thousand dollars that you're looking at per kid, and if we want two, that's a house and that's the pay for children. Thousands, so it's about women are clock, is ticking the older we get the less time we have to make it happen. So for us it's a little different, so we actually have like infertility, struggles, a lot.

Forty thousand, you buy it because we actually just had one recently, and so it's like the topic of kids is like super sensitive to us because, like we actually like our miscarriage happened like last week, and it was like really like hard because we were so excited. We told our families and we were like i'm reading the chat. What you guys talking about like so excited to like announce to everyone at christmas and sorry you're like breaks, i'm not pretending. I don't know what you're saying, but you guys, if you adopt you adopt, i don't know you have to buy you.

They are because, like i know, like it's bringing us closer together, but it's like one of the hardest things we've had to go through together, because it's like, i know, tyler's, going to be an amazing dad but, like i feel bad and some like i've, i feel Bad because i've told him about that, it's fine, if you like, want to go, marry someone else now, i'm not supposed to do this in canada. Didn't okay, healthcare is free, so i guess, if your children, it doesn't cost anything. But then you guys say: oh you're, pretending it pretty. What's it like yeah like how do you buy it, i thought you you adopt like it's like it's free, it's because i know i can't provide that yeah.

Now it's been really hard to deal with, just because, like it's not the most, like, i guess accepting topic to talk about. I know a lot of people feel very awkward whenever that conversation tried to help us out, but don't really know how, like it kind of, makes me want to like be over there, sometimes where i'm just like. No, it's not worth it like, like the heartache and the financial like struggles, it's just not worth it, but at the end of the day, it's like. I know it's worth it.

I know this is where i want to be. I don't like my partner's family uh-oh. Three two one go: oh oh, he did it. My manza didn't even have to think it did it.

She didn't even think it was challenging. I know you know um, i think there are. There are certain members of your family that i absolutely adore. It's okay and i think there was a time and place where i really wanted to love your mom and then there's a time and place where jesus is getting hate.

I have very thick skin. I knew what i was like signing up for. Um i've dealt with like homophobic people, just like anyone else and there's a lot i can handle. But what i can't handle is seeing you hurt okay.

Well, this is getting heavy hardest part because, like you're, so amazing and she's gon na miss out on so much. I mean i totally understand why you're standing there. I wish you could stand here with me. Oh they disagree.

I was raised in a super homophobic family and unfortunately, you can't really choose who you're born into so. I totally understand your frustration because i carry that frustration and i've carried that throughout my whole life. I i'm shocked. You're there yeah i go chat because i guess you guys is i i i i can hear hot takes dumpsters.

I think i think this is the silver lining right like when i married you, i gained a family and where are the hot dicks at? I might disagree with certain points where the heart takes out. This is not how taking you guys and like the new president. There are things my partner doesn't know about me, yeah. Of course we have secrets.

Two one goes hardships in my life. That's like it takes time to unlock. You know what i mean and like talk about, and i feel like if i was like trauma dump like you need therapy too. I mean you did trauma dump on me like before, you know, like we met on a dating app and her first messages to me before we were going on.

A date was like by the way i went through this this this this this this within the last. Like 12 months or so i trauma dumped on you on our first date, so i was like okay she's still here at the end of the day, then obviously i have to marry you and like here we are, and i think if there's anything i don't know, It's the new things that we explore together, not necessarily super focused on the past, like what you ate on your third birthday, like you, probably don't know that, because obviously guys you guys, i don't give this video too much, because i, like jubilee chat. This has been, this has been kind of whatever, just because it was because there's no hot takes there's. No there's no drama, it's just whatever i don't like it, i'm saving it.

Hmm tonight.